Shalawam and much siloam family. I pray that your battles have been successful, and that you have increased greatly.
I give all honor, praise, thanks, and worship to the Creator, to HaWaH, as well as to the Earthly Mother who is Wisdom. I also give honor to our foremothers and forefathers for their obedience to the Most High and sharing this parable.
I was caught up in thought and the spirit spoke, When you bring a bowl of Cool Whip to the table make sure it isn't Grandma's leftovers.
In any given relationship (from acquaintances to spouses) we all, metaphorically, 'have something to bring to the table.' Many of us would like to bring "whipped cream" since it's sweet. We want to bring our best qualities and even ideals of what we can be. It's the "sweet" things that we want to bring to it; (such as comedy, intimacy, fun, positive energy, etc.) However, like the bowl containers of Cool Whip we may not know if that is "what's in the bowl. "
People with a damaged past tend to sugarcoat their problems that came from the trauma, as well as the trauma itself. Like the Cool Whip container, they may not know what is inside the bowl. The past might've been absolutely horrible; similar to how grandma's leftovers possibly being salty, savory, bitter, or just spicy. All of them may have been decent flavors at the time, but they don't help when you crave something sweet. Similarly, toxic traits and behaviors that developed after the trauma may have helped someone manage for a time, but they don't help when they are trying to build healthy relationships(fill the void in their heart).